Letter to Parents

Dear Parent,

          Your child is about to embark on what will hopefully be one of the most fulfilling and rewarding experiences of his or her lifetime.  Everyone dreams of being able to sit down at the keyboard and produce beautiful music.  Unfortunately, learning to play a musical instrument can sometimes be very frustrating.  It takes a long time to learn to play an instrument well, and even the most enthusiastic student is bound to become discouraged from time to time.    Whether or not your child learns to play will depend as much on your attitude as that of your child.  Children need a lot of praise and encouragement.  They also need to do a lot of practicing!  No one wants to have to nag a child to practice, so I am going to offer you some suggestions on how to make practice time less painful.

1.     Establish a regular practice time.   Immediately after breakfast, after school or after supper are good times.  Late in the evening is not a good time because children are usually tired and irritable by then.  Whatever time you choose, STICK TO IT!  Make it a part of your child’s daily schedule.  Fewer arguments over practice will ensue if your child knows that 4:30 is practice time.

2.   Be careful not to make practice seem like a punishment.  Don’t tell your child, “No!  You can’t go out to play until you practice the piano.”  Instead say, “Yes.  You may go out and play as soon as you practice the piano.” 

3.    Make sure your child practices daily but adjust the length of the practice time to the age of the child.  Very young children have a short attention span and can’t be expected to practice for long periods of time.  A five or six year old will probably not be able to concentrate much longer than 10 to 15 minutes at a time.  As they get older and the music becomes more difficult, they will need to extend their practice time. 

4.   Make sure your child is comfortable when practicing.  Try to provide a practice area that is free from distractions.   If a small child’s feet don’t reach the floor, provide a small foot stool or sturdy box for the child to rest his/her feet on.  If the bench is too low, it can be raised by placing a bench pad or carpet remnant on the seat.  Ideally the child should be seated so that the feet are together and resting on a flat surface.  The wrists should be straight and the forearm should be parallel to the keyboard and the floor.  The upper arm should be resting comfortably at the child’s side, and the fingertips should be just slightly curved, so that the fleshy part of the fingertip is resting on the keys.  Avoid long fingernails because they will prevent the child from playing properly.  If the child is using an incorrect hand position, he/she will not be able to play properly and will tire more easily.

5.     When you hit a slump and your child wants to quit (and he/she probably will) try to encourage him/her to stick it out just a little longer.  Everyone I know (including myself) who plays an instrument would have quit taking lessons if our parents had permitted us to; and we are all extremely grateful that our parents made us stick it out.  It really is worth it in the end, and your child will thank you for it some day.

Sincerely,

Margy Williams